By Jennifer Savage.
I want my daughter to be who she is but I can’t help but want to fold her into soft, downy wings and keep her from a world that might not be kind to a child who moves between genders or a teenager who does.
While gender conforming, I thought about all of the other ways he does not conform and the potential for him to be shamed.
My apathy and naiveté are shocking even to me. Almost as shocking as the fact that Donald Trump is going to be our president. Almost.
I knew when I brought my children into the world that I could not place them in a mold and expect them to stay put. I knew I had to be open to their perspective, their interests, their sense of self.
When I was thirteen I changed my brother’s diapers and at nineteen I rocked my sister to sleep on our front porch swing. I remember the weight of her small, curled hand in my lap as she slept. This is what I want, I thought, not now, but some day.
I heard once from my therapist husband that boys need to move their bodies to talk about how they feel.
Working as a Dominatrix has taught me to be open and understanding of people’s individuality.
The therapist walked us through how to listen to hard stories from our children. She said it was easier said than done. We all agreed and laughed.
We are going to a conference for gender non-conforming kids and their parents. We are going in search of other half half kids.
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