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Learning To Accept The Support Of My Kids

Learning To Accept The Support Of My Kids

When thinking about this theme I saw so many ways to take it—social, financial, emotional, the village, finding a good bra or running shoe. I have a great network, parents, husband, friends. But really what I want to do today is tell you about my boys. They are the most supportive people I know, and I don’t honor them enough as my biggest supporters.

When my boys were babies I was very sick. Chronically sick. So we stayed home a lot and I did my best to make it special. Actually, that’s bullshit. Sometimes I did that. Most of the time I did the bare minimum needed to get through the day. Some days it was a lot of TV and just getting through it. And sometimes, my little guys really just had to help me through it.

I hated feeling like I was shorting them. Or using them. Or expecting too much. But the truth was, that was our reality.

My heart hurt for them—for all the things they weren’t getting to do. That they sometimes had to take care of me, instead of the other way around.

I am better now, but still have my moments.

It is only lately that I see all the things they got to do, all the gifts that come from shitty circumstances.

They are kids, for sure, but they too have their moments.

Their moments look like this, when my youngest fell asleep rubbing my head after a surgery: 

They look like how my oldest rubs my feet when he is talking to me, and how he doesn’t even realize he is doing so.

The moments look like how they showed up, big time, when their grandmother was in the hospital.

The support they give teaches me everyday that real love looks like a support cycle.  We just keep giving and getting round and round.

So this month, seek support, serve, give. Take care of each other. Find your moments.

And to my boys, you are my heroes. Every way, every day.

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Categories: Relationships

Elke Govertsen

Elke Govertsen is the Founder and Editor of Mamalode. She has been featured in Real Simple, Where Women Create, 406 Woman, Ad Tech, and Entrepreneur. She speaks on a variety of topics, from social media to overcoming poverty. She also leads the Learn As You Go lecture series for small businesses and is passionate about economic development in Montana. Her special skills include extreme bootstrapping, overcoming obstacles and creating opportunities. Of the many things she has learned by doing Mamalode is her ability to work with absolute chaos/kids/mess just might be the best.
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