Question: Do you know what “minding your business” means? It means letting your child’s spirit remain free. Your number one responsibility as a volunteer caregiver is to keep the unbroken crackers and full-strength juice coming.
I don’t have the words to describe how much I’ve loved Bunmi Laditan’s new book, The Honest Toddler. I’ve read excerpts out loud to my husband, my mother, my children, and anyone else willing to listen.
Why? Because this book made me laugh out loud and deeply and like every parent needs to at least once a day.
The Honest Toddler began as a twitter stream in May 2012 as a humorous release from the day to day, often ridiculous and sometimes challenging, face-offs between Laditan and her third child.
She kept the stream anonymous and the child asexual because she wanted to keep the experience relatable and universal.
And that, she did. Currently, The Honest Toddler has more than 268, 000 twitter followers and 168, 000 Facebook fans.
Laditan’s premise is simple: She writes, tweets, and updates Facebook with what our toddlers would say to us if they could express themselves more fully.
Gems like Still waiting for breakfast. She's too busy telling her Facebook friends how much she loves me, Anyone else notice how trips to the park start off like a Folger’s commercial but end like an episode of COPS? and Happy Saturday! Remember, dawn is best celebrated as a family! fill her streams and keep followers tuning in daily because, my goodness, we can all relate.
The book is written in the same style. Chapters with titles such as “Why Did You Do That?”: The Ins and Outs of Toddler Behavior and How to Leave It Alone and Sleep: Weaning Yourself Off Of It, are filled with sarcastic musings every parent can relate to.
Laditan remained anonymous until the release of this book. Her identity was revealed in this article (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/03/bunmi-laditan-honest-toddler_n_2798448.html) on The Huffington Post in March 2013. The Canadian mom of three said she stayed anonymous so every parent could see themselves in the antics.
And that’s exactly how I felt reading the book. Besides laughing, loving, and relating, three things stood out to me most while reading The Honest Toddler.
First, parenting has to be approached with a sense of humor.
Second, our children have opinions–strong ones–and when we look at things from their points of view, servings of quinoa and multi-stop errands look just a little differently.
And third, it has to be noted that the irreverent look at Grandparenting is a gem all on its own.
We’ve all experienced what can best be described as the surprise of seeing our own parents with our children and wondering where the rules of our childhood have gone. Out the window, that’s where.
Laditan shows us what the candy-giving, McDonald’s going, unencumbered Grandparent-style of love looks and feels like from the toddler’s point of view. “Grandmas: You’re doing great. Keep it up. (Love you.)” And it’s pretty wonderful.
Everybody deserves someone who loves them so fiercely and unconditionally and serves full-strength juice at all times. Even I’m a believer now and vow to never give either set of grandparents the side-eye again when they serve my children four different kinds of cookies.