I’m not ashamed to say that my mom is my best friend. So I’m definitely not ready to lose her yet, or for many many years. I depend on her immensely to be my constant place to vent, the calm in every storm and my ultimate source of advice on any and all of life’s choices. I don’t think most people really ever are ready to lose their parents, even if it’s when they’re 95 years old and can’t recognize their children anymore. When one or both of your parents dies, it can feel like your family tree has been chopped down and your home is now gone forever.
Whether you lose your parents to old age while they sleep peacefully in their recliner, or at too young an age to sickness, remember that you are not alone.
After the loss of a parent, there will be certain days that are more painful than others; mother’s day, father’s day, birthdays and anniversaries will be harder year after year. Even special occasions may still be tainted with pain from wishing your mom or dad could be there for that moment. Though if you stop to listen, you may just hear a little piece of them inside yourself.
Losing a grandparent is another painful blow, even if they’ve lived a “good long life.” Helping your parent through the loss of theirs can remind you that your mom or dad will also be gone someday, possibly even sooner than you think. That thought can make you realize how quickly life is capable of changing, and maybe make you want to hold on to each moment you have with them just a little tighter.
Losing a parent isn’t easy, and it gets no simpler with age; the thing we at Mamalode want you to remember when going through this grief is that you are not alone.